Away from Home and Kids
Separation of the parents from the kids has never been an easy thing. Regardless of whether it is for a weekend, for a month or longer than that, leaving your children alone is very difficult. The feeling of the kid being left by the parent is mutual. This article will talk about how you can prudently handle this situation for the good of both of you. Understand the ideal time to inform your child about your leaving. Factor in your kid’s maturity levels and how he or she can handle the news before you just blatantly tell her. Some kids may not understand the date and time interval you communicate. Hence, you can tell the child within a few time span. Since older kids don’t rely much on their parents, they are less vulnerable to the traveling parents as compared to younger kids. In some cases, you may be required to leave very urgently in such a way that you can’t give your child much notice.
Ensure the child knows when you are leaving and where you will be going. The child should most importantly know when you will be back. Then you can teach him to cross out one day every day that passes and that the last day marked on the calendar is when you will be coming back. You can show him or her where you will be by use of photos or maps. Older kids can find out from the internet or from the map by themselves. Kids like to be promised if they will be in safe hands while you are away. It is good to find out where the child would like to stay when you are away and make sure you agree with her in good terms. Ensure that the kids keep to the normal routine as much as they do in other times. If you are privileged to have a babysitter, let her know the instructions and the feeding schedules that should be followed strictly.
By so doing, you will reduce the separation anxiety. You can consider videotaping yourself as you read a goodnight message to the child so that the kid can always play the video before drifting into sleep. It is better to part with the child by giving them a hug and a kiss and saying nice words how you can’t wait seeing them again. It is not good to limit communication over the phone, Skype or any video chat just for the purpose of keeping in touch and bonding as a family. It’s good to stay in touch but with limited access. Make sure you believe the person you entrusted the care of the child to. Make your child that she is important to you by bring souvenirs to her and sharing your experiences with her.